Keliwilli

Well, people may not know this about me, but I love to write in the center, or to the left or two the right or justified.  I like to mix it up.  Most times people are too boring with their “blogs” and end up being boring.  Of course that is just my opinion and I am biased.  So, anyways, let me get on to the point of the blog.

Making a move in a relationship is the responsibility of the woman.  Wait!  What? The girl is supposed to make the move?  Since when?  Whatever happened to tradition and being “lady like”?  Nobody knows, but the truth remains in today’s world most women want independence, want to be seen as equals and to have the same “jobs” as men.  This is all well and good, but does it have to apply to relationships?  Since when is it ok for the man to roll over and let the girl ask him out?  Should she pay for the meals as well?  Should she be the one proposing?  I vote no!

I personally have no problem with making the first move, however I have never had to before.  I’ve never been in a situation where it was up to me to be the one to grab the other’s hand or to move in for the kiss.  I have done this before, but I didn’t HAVE to.  There is a difference between doing something off of instinct and doing something because you are expected to.  I just don’t know what to do. 

 Is it not intimidating to guys to have girls calling on the shots and making all the moves?  Hello, she obviously wears the pants in that type of relationship.  I don’t remember guys liking to be whipped, but then again, I am kind of old.  Oh, wait, I’m actually not that old at all.  Point is, I would think that having a girl make all the moves would make a guy feel inferior.  I would think that he would WANT to make the first move just so he felt he was in control. 

I figure that is why we girls do make the first move, we want to be in control…why is it not the same with guys?

I’ve never dated a shy guy before so, I must be forgiven, I just don’t understand it, I fear.  That sentence had too many commas, but I digress.  My point is, I’ve never been in a relationship where the guy was so afraid to make even the slightest move because he feared screwing things up.  It just doesn’t happen to me.  So this is new.  A challenge if you will.  I greet said challenge with open arms, it confuses me, but I accept that.

So, question is, what do I do?  Do I go for the kiss on the cheek, when he hugs me, or do I grab his arm in a crowded place, or do I grab his hand randomly?  Hmm?  Dating specialists I want to hear your answers?!?  Both seem like viable options, but which is the safest bet.  Which one will make me seem less intimidating?  I would also like it to be known that I have never been seen as intimidating before, so that is also knew.

 I’m a snob, I realize that.

I digress again, is it true that if I leave enough hints that the guy will get the idea?  Because I thought I had pretty much spelled it out, and today found out that I am expected to make the first move!  What?!?!  This obviously isn’t my Grandma’s world anymore.

Well, enough of my boringness, I would appreciate replys, but I’ll live if I don’t get them…I have for this long, whats a few more years eh? 

 Happy Friday and have a WONDERFUL weekend!

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